“Grandma's Lil' Girl”
Grandma, I was thinking of you today and a smile tickled my face.
Remembering all the things you taught me, like always to say grace.
I remember sitting in your lap while you read the Bible out loud,
To hear me sing a gospel song made you so proud.
I thought of those Saturday mornings I watched them fix your hair,
I remember crossing the street and hearing
GIRL YOU BETTER STOP RIGHT THERE!!!
I remember the goodness you instilled in me, though sometimes it doesn't show,
You played a very special part in my life, and I thought that you should know....
My childhood is filled with memories of you that you couldn't buy
With all the gold in the world,
And even though I am all grown up, at heart I will always be GRANDMA'S LIL' GIRL!!!
— Donna C. Elkins
What happens, though, if things get tense between you and one or both of your grandchild’s parents? What about when boundaries are unclear, or you step into new territory and aren’t sure how to proceed?
Navigating boundaries with your grandchild’s parents can be challenging, but it’s worth the effort to work through any road-bumps that you meet along the way. Your grandchildren need you, and chances are good you’re willing to put in the work it takes to keep a strong bond with those precious kiddos.
Following are some practical methods for grandparents (and parents, too!) that will help keep family life sailing along smoothly and happily.
Maybe you have more than one set of grandkids in the vicinity, and you need to set limits on how often you see each set of kids to reserve a bit of time for yourself. Maybe you’d love to take the kids to lunch somewhere with a playland once a week, but you need their parents to foot the bill, since you are on a limited income.
The thing about grandkids is – they only grow older. It’s worth taking a deep breath and talking out the details while they are young, so you can make the most of the time you have with them, instead of spending time sweating the small stuff. Negotiating, setting, respecting, and sticking to boundaries with your family once grandchildren are on the scene can sometimes be tricky, but it’s worth it to build and strengthen the ties that bind. Your grandchildren want and need you in their lives, and you’ll both be richer for having a strong relationship and a lasting bond.
Last but certainly not least, remember this:
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
— Colossians 3:13
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